Marja Bergen

author, mental health advocate, follower of Christ

Category: Abused (page 7 of 8)

Emotionally damaged (2019)

My life has changed in many ways. Disorganized and all the problems that brings. Frequent and sudden depressions accompanied by a wish to die. Haunted by bad memories. Often confused. Praying for more peace. I sometimes wonder. Is this old age, mental illness, or both? But I can see it’s more than these. It’s emotional […]

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Where has the love gone? (2019)

I ended the last post saying: “It’s just that people too often forget to act out the meat of Christ’s message: To love our neighbour and to love God. It’s all about love, isn’t it? Let us not forget to love each other.” The above came from the depth of my heart. This message from […]

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Treated like a nuisance (2019)

I’m following up on the previous post where I talked about how it feels to be abandoned by friends. It helps a lot if we can think of Jesus and what he went through. It helps to identify with him and draw close in fellowship. But back to my experiences a few year ago: Painful, […]

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Abandoned by friends

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  229  (April 6, 2009) This morning I received an encouraging comment from a blogger – God’s answer for some of what I’ve been going through.  She wrote: “Your words serve a purpose that you may never even know about. I believe that as we speak from our hearts about how we are […]

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Excluded from study group (2019)

At this point I think it’s time I tell you about my greatest source of pain. It was only one of many, but contributed more to later suffering and emotional damage than any other single event. I’m sharing this to illustrate how great and cruel stigma can be and how dehumanizing it is to the […]

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Why is my story important? (2019)

When I was in the ER on November 12, wishing I could die, I realized I couldn’t until my story was told. I wanted to talk about some of the work I had done, raising mental health awareness in the church and founding Living Room. I needed to show how my life had gone tragically […]

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Comment on Christian condemnation (for me in 2019)

In the previous post I wrote: “Eradicating stigma is a fight, but as Christians we need to use love as our weapon of choice, not attacking with cutting words that will hurt. Even when people hurt us, we should try not to hurt back.” Unfortunately I haven’t been able to hold to what I said […]

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Ugly me

  Dear God. I told my therapist last week how I’m feeling ugly. He told me I have to stop expecting everyone to be like Jesus. I suppose I have been, Lord. I haven’t accepted people in the way I’ve wanted them to accept and forgive people like me. The kindness I used to have […]

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With Jesus – Living with borderline

  To think of how I’ve ended up with BPD! It’s an illness that causes me to be thought badly of and avoided. I’ve lost friends and continue losing friends. Recent requests for health care ignored. The very thought of being saddled with this illness and wondering why it all happened to me fills me […]

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Stigma my biggest struggle

Dear Marja, I cried reading your article entitled “Feeling Hated?” dated June 7th because I can truly relate. Sometimes what keeps me going are your articles. My struggles are no longer so much about my illness as I have learned how to handle that now especially with the medicines and some self help stuff I […]

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