Marja Bergen

author, mental health advocate, follower of Christ

Category: Healthy Relationships/Boundaries (page 1 of 4)

Equality between mentally ill and healthy

WHEN BOUNDARIES NEED TO BE APPLIED I’m sensitive to being treated with disrespect. Isn’t everyone? I’m as human as the next person and believe I deserve to be treated that way. And yet, so often, even amongst people who I had thought to be kind, this sense of equality seems not to be understood. I […]

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Mentally ill? Who will protect your rights?

HOW CAN WE TRUST THAT OUR INTERESTS ARE SAFEGUARDED? It’s a sad day when you learn that you can’t trust a daughter or a son with your affairs, were your spouse to die. It’s sad when they disrespect you because of your mental health issues, not regarding you as a person like any other. Sad […]

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Too much attachment?

Boundaries Much has been written about the need for boundaries when supporting people with mental health issues. But I don’t think we hear much about what having such boundaries means to such people themselves. I will describe a bit from a point of view I had at one time. What boundaries mean to me Many […]

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Christian support for mental wellness

ALL OF US TOGETHER Much has been done to increase awareness about mental health in the church. But there’s room for better understanding. A lot more needs to happen than simple acceptance alone. People with mental health issues are no different in wanting to be regarded as having equal worth with others. It’s common for […]

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BPD – goodbyes

From Wichita: “Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. I tried to be responsible. I walked away so she wouldn’t have to deal with that, because no one should have to. I told my siblings what I really thought […]

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Relationships – A BPD Life

Here is another sharing from the person in Wichita, KS: Imagine the most intense feeling you have ever had in your life. Maybe it’s the first time you fell in love, or the worst argument you have ever had with someone you love. The intensity with which you felt those emotions is probably equivalent to […]

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Equal under God

As a person with mental health challenges, I claim the right to be considered equal. I may be different, but I am equal. Equal under God, the same as everyone else. Many have accepted people with problems like mine, making us part of their church and community. But this doesn’t mean we’re necessarily counted as […]

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Part 3 – No longer an equal

EQUALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS Do you remember those days long ago when you were a child and hurting? A friend had let you down. The teacher had shamed you in front of the class. And your mom sat with you, pulled you close and listened to you tell it all. She listened to every word you […]

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Part 2 – Small like Gandhi

EQUALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS  So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) As we saw in Part 1, God made us all to be equal. But too often people automatically think that when a person is different from themselves, they […]

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All of us his children

  See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him. 1 John 3:1 NLT   If our Father in Heaven loves us enough to […]

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