Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

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BPD – My deep shame

  June 2018    When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. 1 Peter 2:22-23   I had thought I was a good person. I always tried to be. Like other Christians, I tried to follow […]

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Could Job Help Being Job?

Anyone who withholds kindness from a friend     forsakes the fear of the Almighty. Job 6:14 It’s all about love, isn’t it? It’s about forgiving others for who they are and what they’ve grown to be. It’s how we follow God. Can anyone who’s hurt by others help it when they’re no longer able to be […]

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A torrent of pain and anger

  Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13   In June 2015 I wrote: “Now-a-days I often have to preface what I say to everyone with “Have I told you this before?” My short-term memory has become […]

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BPD – I’m not a bad person

When asked, most will say a person should be judged by what’s in their heart, not by their outward appearance. But that goes out the window when they see behaviour they find alarming. Behaviour they don’t understand. In my own case, I was hurt by things said to me or done to me. Without the […]

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Blamed

  Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12   When I most needed love, I was treated with frustration. Anger. “Why don’t you pull yourself together?” he seemed to say. Like many, he thought that illnesses of the mind could be controlled. […]

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When wrong-doing is allowed

  “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.  Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.” Luke 17:3-4   Forgiveness has been a common subject lately, and for good […]

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Fixing my eyes on Jesus

  To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. 1 Peter 2:21   At times we face unjust suffering, not as extreme as Jesus’ crucifixion, but painful, nevertheless. This calls for us to look to Jesus as our example – to fix […]

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When we hurt others

  When they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified him there, along with the criminals—one on his right, the other on his left. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots. Luke 23: 33-34   In this […]

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But did I hurt someone? (2019)

I’ve been talking about how I felt back in 2010 when I said or did the wrong thing. I also remember several posts ago when I felt great pain and shame because I knew I had hurt someone. I’ve known many times when I had to beg God for a pure heart and a steadfast […]

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I can no longer be quiet (2019)

Anger is a strange thing. Those who are angry are often not even aware of how they sound to others. At times anger came upon me unawares when something hurtful happened and I tried to express what I thought and how I felt. In almost all cases it was when I felt unjustly treated. My […]

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