Marja Bergen

author, mental health advocate, follower of Christ

Tag: abandonment

Forgive them, Father

There came a time when the entire truth surfaced. Pain intensified and anger did as well. All that had been her life, the present and the past, stolen. Multiple betrayals. Reputation destroyed. Mental health damaged. Jesus told us to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44) She had obeyed as […]


Beyond memories: creating a new reality

  (Written in January 2017) Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22   Jesus knew all about forgiving. He came to do a […]


Treated like a nuisance (2019)

I’m following up on the previous post where I talked about how it feels to be abandoned by friends. It helps a lot if we can think of Jesus and what he went through. It helps to identify with him and draw close in fellowship. But back to my experiences a few year ago: Painful, […]


Where did my friends go? (2019)

In the previous post on coping I wrote, “My friends and my church are very important to me though. They’re my support system and I stay in close touch with them.” Throughout this story about me and Living Room you will have read how much I valued my friends – three in particular. I received […]


Comments on receiving love (2019)

I have spoken much in the blog posts from these early years about the warmth and care shown to me by church friends. They helped me experience what God was like through the love they gave me. Through them I was able to truly “feel” God’s love. You have seen my happiness expressed throughout my […]


Comments on abandonment (2018)

In my previous post I talked about the feelings of abandonment I occasionally felt:  My worst moments are occasional feelings of abandonment. I usually experience these at night. I have a sense of doom, a chilly emptiness. There is nothing to hold on to. No hugs are tight enough to take away my sense of […]


Abandonment issues

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  134  (February 21, 2008) This is a piece I wrote for my new book, A Firm Place to Stand. …God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) My worst moments are occasional feelings of abandonment. I usually experience these at night. I have a sense […]


Living with borderline: part 2 – when we were children

  DIARY: Waking up – again in a place I didn’t think I’d be. Why do I feel like a child, even now? But I’m at peace. Comforted. Secure. The quilt is warm and cozy. If only I could always stay here. But life tells me I must move on. I can’t remain a child […]


Did Jesus feel loved?

   I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead. Philippians 3:10-11   I wondered to myself: As Jesus hung on the cross, did he feel compassion from anyone? Did anyone […]


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