Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

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Ostracized – A life with BPD

We are social creatures. Most people need friends. We need to know we are loved. When those are lacking, our mental health suffers. Many people living with BPD end up suffering from a deep and painful sense of being unwanted. This became the case for one person, though it had not always been like that. […]

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A torrent of pain and anger

  Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13   In June 2015 I wrote: “Now-a-days I often have to preface what I say to everyone with “Have I told you this before?” My short-term memory has become […]

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BPD – I’m not a bad person

When asked, most will say a person should be judged by what’s in their heart, not by their outward appearance. But that goes out the window when they see behaviour they find alarming. Behaviour they don’t understand. In my own case, I was hurt by things said to me or done to me. Without the […]

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BPD – Man’s inhumanity to man

People with BPD are often treated like untouchables in our modern world. Medical professionals and counselors don’t want to deal with them. They are feared by the people around them—feared because they don’t know the kind of response to expect. But if we want to follow Christ’s ways, we must try and treat those who […]

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BPD – The compassionate response to anger

Suppose someone said something or did something especially hurtful to the person with BPD. Such a sensitive person might not be able to help but react, often with the over-the-top anger (or emotional dysregulation) we’ve been talking about. That’s the feature of BPD that’s most alarming in the eyes of the people around us. And […]

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BPD – Emotional dysregulation

Through life challenges and trauma, usually occurring in childhood, people with BPD develop a strong sensitivity. They’re easily hurt. One source suggests that it’s like going through life without skin–without the protective barrier that prevents pain receptors from being exposed. Someone with BPD is much more hurt by someone’s words and actions than a person […]

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BPD – childhood trauma

  BPD (borderline personality disorder) has its roots in our childhood. It may develop as a result of abuse. On the other hand, the child may have been treated well but had periods of abandonment. Time away from home, in hospital or elsewhere, can cause significant trauma for a young child. A child who is […]

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How angry do you get? – A life worth living – Part 53

We probably wouldn’t be normal if we didn’t get angry once in a while. We flare up when someone says something hurtful to us or about us. When they hurt us physically or psychologically. We get angry when we’re lied about or taken advantage of. We get angry when we’re treated disrespectfully, as though we […]

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Nonviolent resistance and anger – A life worth living – Part 52

NONVIOLENT RESISTANCE During the time of the bus boycott, King overcame arrest and other violent harassment, including bombing of his home on January 30, 1956. The inspiration of Mahatma Gandhi began to exert its influence…People who had never heard of him had become familiar with who he was. “Nonviolent resistance emerged as the technique of […]

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I can no longer be quiet (2019)

Anger is a strange thing. Those who are angry are often not even aware of how they sound to others. At times anger came upon me unawares when something hurtful happened and I tried to express what I thought and how I felt. In almost all cases it was when I felt unjustly treated. My […]

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