Marja Bergen

author, mental health advocate, follower of Christ

Category: Borderline – BPD (page 6 of 7)

Unmet childhood needs – living with borderline

  Mental health professionals agree that those who have a stressful childhood are at greater risk of developing BPD. Sources of stress include abuse, neglect, parental divorce, separation from a parent or caregiver, mental disorders in a caregiver, parent, or sibling, or general conflict, fighting, and instability in the family. When I became an adult […]

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Part 12 – BPD for pastors

  Today I want to share an article written by Enos Martin and E.A. Vastyan from Christianity Today. In it they advise church leaders on how to treat parishioners suffering with borderline personality disorder (BPD). https://www.christianitytoday.com/pastors/1989/fall/89l4042.html I found it a valuable, yet personally humbling read. Humbling because it paints a picture of how I had […]

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Feeling hated?

  “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:43-45   Around thirty years ago when I started following God I prayed, “Fill me with […]

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Leprosy of mental illness: living with borderline part 9

  DIARY: Despised by those once close, made to feel ugly. What have I done? I did the best I could. Was I really to blame, or was it the label someone stuck on me?   Where do you go when you have an illness that doctors and counselors don’t want to deal with – […]

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Part 8: what do family and friends say? Living with borderline

  But to God – to Jesus – we are valuable and beautiful. Each of us is a unique creation. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14   When we think of being stigmatized because of an illness or disorder, our […]

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Living with borderline: Part 7 – growing at bpac

  Sometime after leaving Cliff Avenue I found Brentwood Park Alliance Church (BPAC). It was a big change from the United Church. The sermons were stronger and started to make a difference in my life. The Bible also spoke to me in a greater way than it had before. As a result, my walk with […]

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Living with borderline: part 6 – searching for light

  A sinful woman in the town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house. So she brought an alabaster jar of perfume and stood behind Jesus at his feet, crying. She began to wash his feet with her tears, and she dried them with her hair, kissing them many times and rubbing them […]

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Dear readers – about bpd

  You may have noticed that I started a series of posts a few weeks ago that I call Living with Borderline. I’m hoping the posts will encourage those who live with borderline personality disorder and that they will help their family and friends learn to understand them. I pray that raising awareness will help […]

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Living with borderline: part 5 – betrayal

DIARY: Waking up, flooded with painful memories once more. Having given all she had, yet robbed. Robbed of all she invested, all that had made her feel worthy.   When something or someone is stolen from me while I’m rendered helpless because of mental ill health, the pain is excruciating. Being hurt in this way […]

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Living with borderline: part 4 – Personality or character?

BPD is referred to as a personality disorder. Does that mean that those of us who are thus diagnosed have a bad personality? And what is a personality anyway? How does it differ from character? Character refers to a set of moral and mental qualities and beliefs, that makes a person different from others. A […]

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