Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

Tag: support

13. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Our pastors as supporters Ministry leaders are often the most affected by the needs and demands of people with mental health issues in the church. They tend to be kind-hearted with great willingness to help those who are suffering. For them setting boundaries in the spiritual care of these people is especially important. Someone I […]


12. Healthy relationship with our supporters

Caring for our caregivers Lord, I know that, despite the illness I struggle with, I’m a caring person, like so many of us. We help others whenever we can and many of us have made contributions to our communities. Even then we run into problems with depression and other kinds of emotional distress. It becomes […]


5. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Respecting boundaries Lord, this morning I emailed a brief note to a friend. I thought I was getting pretty good about respecting her boundaries, trying not to email more than every couple of days or so. We had not formally discussed that this should be a boundary, yet it’s what seemed to work best. But […]


4. Healthy relationships with our supporters

ALWAYS LESSER THAN Lord Jesus, I know it’s hard for those who don’t have mental illness to understand: I, and many of us, feel small next to our supporters. I don’t think they consciously set themselves above us, yet we feel lower. We feel inferior. For me it was like my supporters were father and […]


3. Maintaining healthy relationships with our supporters

I confused them with God himself My Monday devotional from December 18th explains how badly I need God in my life. How very badly I need his love! How very badly many of you need his love! It’s at if you’d like to have a look. Lord, I see your love shining through the […]


2. Healthy relationships with our supporters

  Seeing beyond our own needs: a prayer   Lord, I feel dreadful – ashamed that my needs overtook my reasoning. It was not until after the damage was done that I realized my grave mistake. It was not until later that I learned, with great difficulty, to stop myself from writing so many emails […]


I learn that I have BPD

Near the beginning of this year, a couple of months after being told I have features of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I decided I needed to write. I wanted to talk about my super-sensitivity and emotional pain, my unintentional inappropriate behavior, and my feelings of rejection. I wanted to share with others who might be […]


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