Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

Tag: emotional pain (page 1 of 2)

Was this why the anger? (2019)

I need people. Always have. Many of us, including me, wouldn’t survive our emotional distresses without the support of friends, counselors or the crisis line. Without having someone stay close to talk us through the pain, we might not survive. I might not have survived. It often takes another person to help us look at […]

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Like an outcast (2019)

When I was excluded from the group I had needed so badly I felt like an outcast. Not long after, when I retired from Living Room, I was told I could no longer come back as a peer, I wrote in my journal: “Now I have no group at all. I’m an outsider.” Unwanted. Left […]

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Okay to show our pain?

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  257  (November 14, 2009) A couple of days ago a friend sent me photographs comparing how good most of us have it with how bad things are for some people. There was a picture of a plump, well-fed baby next to a picture of a starving baby, all skin and bones. Another […]

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Five years later I let go (2019)

I wrote the following in April 2009: “Maybe I’ve reached the limit and God wants to open new paths for me to follow. I’ll have to see and be open to his leading. Would I ever like to be stable and strong again!” But it was not until five years later, in early 2014, when […]

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Comment on stigma in church (2019)

Copying from previous post written in 2008 when all was good for me:  I haven’t thought for a while about stigma within the church. My life has been pretty insulated. I don’t feel the effects of such stigma. But every once in a while I hear a story that gets my blood boiling. It’s not […]

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Abandonment issues

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  134  (February 21, 2008) This is a piece I wrote for my new book, A Firm Place to Stand. …God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) My worst moments are occasional feelings of abandonment. I usually experience these at night. I have a sense […]

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1. Rejected by a friend

  “Could you please tell Karen I love her?” I called to Karen’s husband as he left to visit her at the hospital. I tried to get the message through to her as often as I could. She had always meant a lot to me. Karen had severe health problems. Although I found it difficult, […]

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Bursting heart

  But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. 1 Peter 4:13   I’ve been writing much here about how stigma has been affecting me. My story. My pain. But I realize everyone has a story. Everyone has experienced some form […]

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Humiliated: living with borderline

  2015 – BEFORE LEAVING Lord, Why don’t people treat me like others? What’s wrong with me? They’ll not speak to me, nor am I welcome to speak. No longer are my opinions heard. Significant emails not answered. Treated as less than human, words and actions hurt deep, with no regard to feelings. Anger replaced […]

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Beginnings: living with borderline

  How I wish I could find someone who would understand! Helping others appreciate your emotional pain must be impossible, unless they’ve also experienced it. Thus you’re left very much alone – the pain shrugged off as unimportant by friends and family. And so I write, hoping that perhaps some will understand this clue of […]

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