Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

Tag: emotional pain (page 1 of 2)

Like an outcast (2019)

When I was excluded from the group I had needed so badly I felt like an outcast. Not long after, when I retired from Living Room, I was told I could no longer come back as a peer, I wrote in my journal: “Now I have no group at all. I’m an outsider.” Unwanted. Left […]

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Okay to show our pain?

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  257  (November 14, 2009) A couple of days ago a friend sent me photographs comparing how good most of us have it with how bad things are for some people. There was a picture of a plump, well-fed baby next to a picture of a starving baby, all skin and bones. Another […]

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Five years later I let go (2019)

I wrote the following in April 2009: “Maybe I’ve reached the limit and God wants to open new paths for me to follow. I’ll have to see and be open to his leading. Would I ever like to be stable and strong again!” But it was not until five years later, in early 2014, when […]

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Comment on stigma in church (2019)

Copying from previous post written in 2008 when all was good for me:  I haven’t thought for a while about stigma within the church. My life has been pretty insulated. I don’t feel the effects of such stigma. But every once in a while I hear a story that gets my blood boiling. It’s not […]

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Abandonment issues

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  134  (February 21, 2008) This is a piece I wrote for my new book, A Firm Place to Stand. …God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) My worst moments are occasional feelings of abandonment. I usually experience these at night. I have a sense […]

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1. Rejected by a friend

  “Could you please tell Karen I love her?” I called to Karen’s husband as he left to visit her at the hospital. I tried to get the message through to her as often as I could. She had always meant a lot to me. Karen had severe health problems. Although I found it difficult, […]

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Bursting heart

  But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. 1 Peter 4:13   I’ve been writing much here about how stigma has been affecting me. My story. My pain. But I realize everyone has a story. Everyone has experienced some form […]

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Humiliated: living with borderline

  2015 – BEFORE LEAVING Lord, Why don’t people treat me like others? What’s wrong with me? They’ll not speak to me, nor am I welcome to speak. No longer are my opinions heard. Significant emails not answered. Treated as less than human, words and actions hurt deep, with no regard to feelings. Anger replaced […]

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Beginnings: living with borderline

  How I wish I could find someone who would understand! Helping others appreciate your emotional pain must be impossible, unless they’ve also experienced it. Thus you’re left very much alone – the pain shrugged off as unimportant by friends and family. And so I write, hoping that perhaps some will understand this clue of […]

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Too sensitive?

  But blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear. Matthew 13:16   I’ve been told I’m too sensitive – that it causes pain I shouldn’t have. Pain from feelings of rejection – whether real or perceived. I’m told it’s an illness – a bad one. But although some of […]

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