Stigma is the biggest cause of the lack of self-esteem many of us live with. It often causes more pain and suffering than the symptoms of our illness. Among other things, this series will talk about the need for confidence—both within yourself and beyond ourselves, in the world.

I think many will identify with this lady:

My struggles are no longer so much about my illness as I have learned how to handle that now especially with the medicines and some self help stuff I learned from WRAP. What is hard to overcome is really the stigma…self stigma, stigma from others…the fear of it…feeling hated…feeling talked about…the feeling of being a burden…the feeling of being unloved. Plus I have past issues and traumatic events that I haven’t really dealt with a counselor/doctor yet. And these are so triggering. It breaks my heart. It makes me angry sometimes. I don’t know how to manage myself when I get triggered. It makes me feel so alone.

And I can relate to what the Kipling poem, If, said: “when being lied about, don’t deal in lies, or being hated, don’t give way to hating.”

I can’t help it…I always forgive and just ignore those people who stabbed me behind and just forgive because this is what I was taught growing up. But I question sometimes… if I am not going to stand up for myself who else will? If I give in to my emotions and talk to those people who I think are stigmatizing me and give them my piece of mind…I might hurt them and that will lead to more guilty feelings. I just do not know who to trust anymore as I feel when I say something it will all come back to me. I just do not know what to do anymore.

Anonymous

 

This has been Part 2 of the series JUSTICE FOR ALL. Read Part 3 What are we talking about?