Marja Bergen

author, mental health advocate, follower of Christ

Category: Relationships (page 1 of 2)

Part 3 – No longer an equal

EQUALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS Do you remember those days long ago when you were a child and hurting? A friend had let you down. The teacher had shamed you in front of the class. And your mom sat with you, pulled you close and listened to you tell it all. She listened to every word you […]

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Part 2 – Small like Gandhi

EQUALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS  So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) As we saw in Part 1, God made us all to be equal. But too often people automatically think that when a person is different from themselves, they […]

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All of us his children

  See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him. 1 John 3:1 NLT   If our Father in Heaven loves us enough to […]

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Comment on too much contact (2019)

I’ve learned a lot since I wrote the previous post. Yes, I was emailing my pastor too much, though he had assured me it was OK. It would have been a good time for him to set limits when I had asked. When supporting a person with emotional needs, boundaries will be necessary if it […]

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Too much contact

LIVING ROOM MEMORIES  149  (April 13, 2008) Yesterday I took a day off. I took a day for myself – just resting and reading. It was a beautiful feeling. I felt like I was on holidays. My husband was working all day so I was alone. No one interfered with the quiet solitude I had […]

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14. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Taking control: creating our own boundaries What can a person like me – a person who sometimes feels rather “small” – do when no boundaries are given? I wonder how many of you who are reading this feel “small’ like this? Small in your eyes. We too often forget that God does not see us […]

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13. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Our pastors as supporters Ministry leaders are often the most affected by the needs and demands of people with mental health issues in the church. They tend to be kind-hearted with great willingness to help those who are suffering. For them setting boundaries in the spiritual care of these people is especially important. Someone I […]

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12. Healthy relationship with our supporters

Caring for our caregivers Lord, I know that, despite the illness I struggle with, I’m a caring person, like so many of us. We help others whenever we can and many of us have made contributions to our communities. Even then we run into problems with depression and other kinds of emotional distress. It becomes […]

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11. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Suffering: a gift? Lord, when I go through hard times, all I feel then is the pain. I often wish I could die. Looking for a way to escape it, I call out to you. To friends as well. But I receive only momentary relief. There seems to be no apparent reason for what’s happening. […]

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10. Healthy relationships with our supporters

What did Jesus do? Lord, you yourself know how there’s no pain like this pain of being rejected. Not only rejected, but sometimes even mistreated. You understand how much strength it takes to accept what I’ve gone through. It took more strength than I’ve needed for anything I’ve done before. I’ve heard that you just […]

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