Marja Bergen

author, mental health activist, follower of Christ

Category: Day by Day (page 1 of 8)

3. For better or worse

Being a spouse with mental health issues   HAVING AN INTIMATE CONVERSATION How often do you stop everything and take some time to really talk with your spouse? I’m willing to bet that many of us overlook its importance and let the days roll by without spending the time to hear how things are for […]


2. For better or worse

Being a spouse with mental health issues I started preparing to write this a while back and applied a few strategies I had come up with. I followed some of the basics of how to have a good marriage and considered what that would mean to a person struggling with mental health issues. Even by […]


1. For better or worse

Being a spouse with mental health issues Today I’m starting a series of blogposts that will look at the part we who live with mental health issues could play to keep marriage to our spouse working well, despite the difficulties our illnesses bring. Everything I see on the internet about marriage to a mentally ill […]


When pastors are too kind

Don’t set those with mental health issues apart. I hope you’ll check out my article, published last week on Church for Vancouver. You’ll find it at And no, I don’t usually look as stressed out as all that 😊 marja


14. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Taking control: creating our own boundaries What can a person like me – a person who sometimes feels rather “small” – do when no boundaries are given? I wonder how many of you who are reading this feel “small’ like this? Small in your eyes. We too often forget that God does not see us […]


13. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Our pastors as supporters Ministry leaders are often the most affected by the needs and demands of people with mental health issues in the church. They tend to be kind-hearted with great willingness to help those who are suffering. For them setting boundaries in the spiritual care of these people is especially important. Someone I […]


12. Healthy relationship with our supporters

Caring for our caregivers Lord, I know that, despite the illness I struggle with, I’m a caring person, like so many of us. We help others whenever we can and many of us have made contributions to our communities. Even then we run into problems with depression and other kinds of emotional distress. It becomes […]


11. Healthy relationships with our supporters

Suffering: a gift? Lord, when I go through hard times, all I feel then is the pain. I often wish I could die. Looking for a way to escape it, I call out to you. To friends as well. But I receive only momentary relief. There seems to be no apparent reason for what’s happening. […]


10. Healthy relationships with our supporters

What did Jesus do? Lord, you yourself know how there’s no pain like this pain of being rejected. Not only rejected, but sometimes even mistreated. You understand how much strength it takes to accept what I’ve gone through. It took more strength than I’ve needed for anything I’ve done before. I’ve heard that you just […]


9. Healthy relationships with our supporters

When fences become walls Some words a friend shared:  “I keep thinking about fences, especially the ones on our street.  I’m not sure that fences make GOOD neighbours.  Wherever there is a fence on our street, it feels like they are keeping everyone out of their corner of the world. It becomes a definite boundary, […]

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